As an integrative practitioner, I provide counselling that is flexible in approach and best suited to your needs
The type of counselling you seek or choose should reflect your needs at that time but, if your circumstances or needs change, it may be necessary to review or reconsider the type of counselling that is most appropriate for you. For example, if your one-to one counselling concerns a relationship issue, you may then decide that the process should involve your partner and so wish to engage with couples counselling.
I will always try to be flexible and responsive to your needs and preferences
In one-to-one counselling sessions, a client can explore various aspects of their life and feelings, talking about them freely and openly with someone who will listen attentively, patiently and without judgement. I offer a relationship based on unconditional acceptance and respect that is without agenda and may not be possible with friends or family.
The one-to-one counselling process is very much a two-person activity; only by establishing a level of mutual trust and respect will you feel comfortable enough to look at intimate aspects of your life, relationships and inner self which you may not have previously considered or even been prepared to face.
I will not give direct advice or instruction but rather seek to enable possible choice or change for you. As we explore your feelings and thoughts about your present difficulties, both in the context of past experiences and hopes for the future, you will hopefully begin to identify possible options for resolution or accomodation.
Major changes to your situation may not be possible but even minor positive changes to how you perceive or deal with that situation are always possible. I cannot directly bring about such changes (that's your responsibility) but I can support you in moving towards doing so.
Counselling for couples
Couples counselling is a form of therapy that looks to improve communication and resolve issues within the intimate relationship between two people. Although this relationship can be one of the closest we have, choosing a partner and staying together through life's twists and turns is rarely as simple or romantic as we would like. Deciding to co-habit and/or get married, raise a family together & take on associated social and financial commitments can only add to the complexity.
Whether you find your occasional tiff escalating into full-blown arguments or you have simply stopped having fun, very few relationships exist conflict-free and if you feel yours is beginning to falter, health and happiness often suffers. After being in a relationship or marriage for a long time, it can be easy to fall into the trap of not listening to the other person or not communicating needs clearly.
While for many of us our first instinct is to try and work through problems alone, if you are concerned about your relationship (for whatever reason) and feel you are unable to reach a conclusion alone, it is likely that you will benefit from couples counselling. You will be given the opportunity to speak to an impartial professional who has no preconceived notions of who you are as a couple, but has the skills and training behind them to guide you through your concerns.
There are many different concerns that may bring you to couples counselling including: -
- lack of trust folowing betrayal or affair
- lack of communication
- financial issues
- work-related stress
- different sexual needs or other sexual issues
- family conflicts
- different goals and values
- life changes
For some, the suggestion of couples counselling is considered a 'last resort' to save a relationship/marriage. While this may sometimes regrettably be the case, you do not have to wait until things get that bad before trying couples counselling. Many couples use therapy sessions as a way of keeping their relationship healthy and address any underlying concerns that may become conflicts in the future.
It is important to remember that when you come to couples counselling, I will not simply be telling you what to do or offering you my own opinions on how to conduct your relationship. My role is rather to facilitate change and resolution by helping you both to communicate more effectively and reach your own conclusions with my impartial but supportive guidance.
Cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT)
CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) is has become one of the most widely used forms of talking therapy. It is recommended by the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) and has been shown to be as effective as medication for many common mental health issues, such as depression and anxiety.
It is based on the principle that our reaction to a situation (emotions, behaviours) depends not on the situation itself but on unconscious underlying negative beliefs and thought patterns. By identifying and examining these underlying negative thought patterns, CBT aims to show you other more positive ways of interpreting or reacting to situations. By breaking out of the negative cycles, your behaviours and emotions become more positive and constructive.
Unlike some other therapies, which may be rooted in past events and experiences, CBT is more focussed on the present and how current concerns can relate to the future. This type of therapy is very practical, structured and solution-focussed (rather than insight-based) and looks at realistic ways for resolving problems. It is particularly helpful for those with specific (rather than more complex) mental health issues such as anxiety and/or depression, phobias,/B>, eating disorders & addictions.
You will be expected to take a proactive role within your treatment by completing tasks at home between sessions; while the sessions offer support and space to explore your concerns, it is the work you do outside of your sessions that can have the most impact. By staying focussed and completing homework tasks, you will hopefully start to develop a stronger sense of self-confidence and self-belief, helping yourself to progress more quickly.
There are a range of specific approaches classed as "Third Wave" CBT which include Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT), Compassion Focussed Therapy (CFT) and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), all of which include Mindfulness as a key element of their process.